What type of parent are you?Strict, authoritarian, permissive, unconcerned parents

What type of parent are you?Strict, authoritarian, permissive, unconcerned parents
Undoubtedly the majority of parents want to raise their children properly and form healthy characters that can cope with the demands of modern life and be able tointegrate smoothly into society. However, parents do not follow a particular model for the upbringing of their children. Instead they use their own beliefs and follow different rearing methods depending on the situation, level of education, the child, the child`s behaviour at a given moment and the cultural context.
Parents play a major role in the lives of their children, since they are the ones that set the limits to their children, instil values and self-control and allow their children to take initiatives. Important dimensions for parenting is first of all the parental control of the child, which refers to how restrictive are the parents towards their children and how much freedom give them, and secondly the emotional warmth that is provided by the parents, i.e. how much affection and warmth express the parents towards their children. According to these parameters we can distinguish four types of parents: strict, authoritarian, permissive and unconcerned.
Strict parents: They really control their children, while offering them much emotional warmth. These parents set reasonable limits to their children and offer them explanations that can be understood by the children, leading them to obey their parents. These parents listen to their children and their needs and are flexible to their limits when it is appropriate.
Authoritarian parents: These parents have excessive control over their children and express little emotional warmth. Usually they adhere to their rules and sometimes get angry when their child resist. They avoid long discussions with their children and their rules are inflexible and cannot be changed, which makes the children`s efforts for autonomy a disappointment.
Permissive parents: They are the ones who show a lot of emotional warmth and have little control, by setting minimal limits, on the behaviour of their children. In this case the child remains unaware, since he/she is not able to know him/herself which are the right boundaries. Many permissive parents have such a strong need to show their children their unconditional love that they fail to control other important parenting functions, such as establishing limits.
Unconcerned parents: These parents neither show much emotional warmth, nor set limits to their children. Usually, they either do not care about their children, or they have not the energy to provide the right guidance and support.

The effects that these different types of parents have on the children.

The authoritarian parents create more withdrawn and frightened children which are dependent and non-assertive and as teenagers they may rebel and becomeaggressive.
The permissive parents usually have rebellious and aggressive children. These children are lenient with themselves and socially they are mostly brittle, although they can be friendly and creative as well.
The unconcerned parents who are the worst type of parents, especially if their permissiveness is accompanied by lack of love, as that can push the child to be left free even to his/her worst and destructive impulses.
On the contrary, the strict parents have good functionality with respect to most aspects of life. They teach their children to rely on themselves, to have self-control and be social. At the same time, these children growing up having higher self-esteem and better academic performances.
It is worth noting that in families with both paren ts present, there can be two different types of parents and for that reason it is necessary for the parents to cooperate with each other regarding the upbringing of their children. So, parents, now it`s the time to change the way that you raise and educate your children or perhaps
continue in the great, same way as you did until now for your children`s sake.
1. Grace J. Craig Don Baucum, 2007, The Human Development, Vol. 1, Ed. Papazisis, Curator Panagiota Vorria

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