Children`s choices-Life`s choices

Children`s choices-Life`s choices

The choices and decisions are an integral part of our everyday lives. Whether we like it or not, whether sometimes they are more difficult, or we try to avoid that, the truth is that every day, even unconsciously, we make decisions, and this is exactly what happens in every age. It is a mistake to think that young children or even babies do not decide about anything, because it is the baby that eats whenever he/she wants, sleeps whenever he/she wants and play whenever he/she wants, even without being able to speak yet. This is exactly the case with children of all ages, but many parents do not recognize that.

Being a child capable of making his/her own decisions is extremely important for his/her cognitive and communicative development and of course through that he/she can better understand him/herself, his/her counterparts and the severity of his/her own, personal opinion. Unfortunately, many parents do not realize this and try to pass on to their children their own ideas.

It makes sense when the children are still very young for the parents to take all the big and important decisions, but sometimes the parents, either unknowingly or because that this is the right thing to do, trying to impose to their children what to do without being interested on the child`s opinion. An example is when both or one of the parents is vegetarian and imposes on his/her 2, 3 year old child to be also a vegetarian. This is incorrect, because a child at that age is not able to understand exactly what a vegetarian is, probably lacks some essential nutrients (if he/she is not following a diet from a doctor or a dietician) and of course the child has already been deprived of the choice to decide for him/herself what it is that he/she likes to eat and what not. Also, another example is the fact that parents do not let their children choose their own clothes, because they do not fit together. Another huge mistake, because children do not care about whether what they wear is in fashion or not or if the match together, and this should not bother their parents at all as well. Letting your kids dressing up as they like is a huge step in order to show them that you trust them and that they can be responsible for themselves.

We all have to understand that the daily decisions that we as adults should take, most of the times have no difference from those that our children should take. So, do not be afraid to ask your children what is that they wish and let them choose freely what they want for dinner, which T-shirt they want to buy, at what level to cut their hair, etc. and of course stop taking these small daily decisions for them. Many times, however, the choices that we make in this life are not that simple, as what food do we want, but which profession are we going to follow or what hobbies are we going to choose, etc. and that is the point where many times the parents destroy the future of their children unintentionally.

It is natural for the parents to worry about their kids and for that reason they try to influence their decisions towards to what they think is the right way, but in reality that is the biggest mistake. At that particular moment we should let our ego aside and just think that our children`s future doesn`t belong to us, it is theirs, as their life is theirs and it is them that have to decide what they want to do and not hear others, even if by others we mean their own parents. Just think how miserable will be your children if they choose a job that doesn`t suit them only because they want to please you or if they completely change their style only for your sake and then feel bad and uncomfortable in their own skin.

The life of our children is not a favour to us, so for that reason let them find their passion in life, even if sometimes they encounter some obstacles. The only thing that you can do is to be always there for them no matter what and support them until they achieve their goal. In conclusion, the examples can be plenty, but the conclusion is only one: Let your children make their own choices, even if they don`t always match yours.

 

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